Is Gifting Money Really That Bad?
It depends. We participate in a lot of gift-giving my family simply because it’s a huge family. Many times we have to find out ahead of time what the person likes and what he or she dislikes. Then you go out shopping at various stores to search for the item(s), buy, pack, and hope it is really what they wanted.
My dad never wants a gift. He prefers cash. But somehow I feel weird giving my dad cash but am ok giving it to younger kids. I guess it’s some kind of age or cultural thing. So I may end up buying him something like a golf simulator or tickets for spitfire flying (find more info on spitfires.com) and then provide some justification for how and why he should go for it. π
I suppose he prefers cash/money has so much flexibility. You can spend it on whatever or save it for whatever.
It can ofcourse grow into more money too.
Some or many people believe that giving cash may be offensive, lazy, or insensitive. They may believe that the giver did not take any effort into learning more about the recipient’s interest or was not worth their time or effort to go and see what to buy. But this is not necessarily the case.
Depends Who the Recipient Is Right
Cash can be a great gift for some and not so good for others, generally speaking. I would not recommend giving cash to your significant other unless you are absolutely sure that is what they definitely want.
Also, I would not give cash to my parents as a gift (it just feels weird).
I’d strongly consider giving cash to children. They get super-excited when they see cash. It’s like a golden ticket for so many things.
The fashion and trend for kids and teens are changing so fast, it’s almost impossible for adults to keep up. I know in my family, we ask the kids to tell us specifically what they want for their birthday. And if we don’t have the time to get it, we simply give cash.
Evan Polman, an assistant professor of marketing at the University of Wisconsin-Madison agrees that it’s more and tougher to figure out what people really want as a gift and if they’ll be content with what they receive. He says there are so many options available to consumers and as a result, people know exactly what they want to match their preferences.
How To Gift Money
You don’t want to just give a wad of cash. It reminds me of the Seinfeld episode when Jerry gave Elaine cash. That was hilarious. She had this look on her face that’s just plain confusion. And here is some of the dialogue:
Elaine: Cash?
Jerry: Would do you think?
Elaine: You got me cash?
Jerry: Well this way I figure you can go out and get yourself whatever you want. No good?
Elaine: Who are you, my uncle?
Jerry: Well come on. That’s $182 right there. I don’t think that’s anything to sneeze at.
Elaine: Let me see the card. (Reading) To a wonderful girl, a great pal, and more?
The last line is just the icing on the cake. π
If you do decide to give money, I’d suggest using clean and crisp bills; you can usually get them from your bank. Also, you can buy nice decorative envelopes from Walmart or Target and write a brief message. If you don’t’ want to do that, consider buying a card that already has a message and places the money in there. And try not to give for example $50 with two 10 dollar bills and thirty 1 dollar bills either.
Alternatives To Giving Cash
Check β this can be gifted to children and adults. A lot of times for occasions such as weddings, baby showers, and graduations where invitations are sent, many times it clearly reads “no boxed gifts”. This is a nice way of saying we want money. In this scenario, we’ll usually gift a check.
Gift Card β this one is probably my go to. It actually has the word “gift” in it. First off, you’re not going crazy trying to figure out exactly what to get. And at the same time, you do put in some thought. For example, if it’s for someone who loves movies, then a gift card to IMAX movie theatre (the real IMAX). Or if it’s for your friend that loves coffee, you can gift a Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts gift card.
You Can Always Keep Cash
Whether we like to admit it or not, all of us have received something and then tried to figure out where it was purchased so we can go to exchange or return it. Consider the time it takes to go to the store, wait in the special customer service or returns line which almost always takes longer and then “attempt” to return something.
And when you return stuff too often at a particular store, you may even be temporarily banned from returning things.
What Do The People Say?
I decided to solicit feedback via Twitter. I simply asked people if they would gladly give or receive cash, check, or gift card. The results were unidirectional; everyone who voted thought it would be fine to receive a gift card. And that even works in the work culture where the managers or higher management as an appreciation tend to present their workers with gift cards (like those that can be found on gift card resellers sites) of some kind of currency:
At the same time, I think the survey responders are most likely other personal finance writers or persons of interest. Therefore, the population may arguably be skewed as well.
The best advice I can give is to know who you are giving money too. If you know them well enough to be comfortable giving it to them or if they specifically state in an initiation “no boxed gifts” then you’re good.
You’re Thoughts:
- Have you ever given a form of cash to someone as a gift and received a favorable reaction?
- Is that what they wanted? Were they happy or surprised or upset?
- Would you like to receive cash or would you be offended?
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SMM, Gifting is hard for me because I really never want to receive a gift so I mistakenly project that feeling on to others. If I don’t want a gift, why would they? That said, I would rather receive cash. Tom
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I think many of us are the same way. Maybe you have to be hard-wired a certain way to get that excitement of receiving a gift; at least as an adult. π
Hey SMM,
I’m filled with contradictions on this subject. I love getting cash (but almost never do), but feel uncomfortable gifting it. I don’t have any family in my city, so I usually find some random-but-cool (in my opinion) item on Amazon and send it directly to them, gift-wrapped by Amazon.
Always a hard-to-handle obligation for me.
Cheers,
Miguel
It can be tough for sure. Amazon to the rescue as it has practically anything that can be shipped to virtually anywhere. Most of the time I let my wife handle gift giving at least to family. π
Timely post with graduation season upon us! This very conundrum has been on my mind. At least with graduations, cash is usually most appreciated! π
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I agree. A lot of those graduation gifts with Class of XXXX etched usually end up collecting dust years down the road.
I feel uncomfortable with cash. My parents always ask what I want for my birthday and it is kind of funny to me at this point. They care about me and I appreciate it but I just want to be with them I don’t want any THING. I give cash to those younger then me because I like it! I think giving money to someone older then you would be awkward for me.
Same here: awkward. The alternative for me becomes a gift card for a store, or spa treatment. You can find a gift card for practically anywhere! π
Giving people cash as a gift is an awkward thing for me. It just doesn’t feel right and I can’t really explain why.
My go-to option is to give them a gift card/voucher and to a specific shop or somewhere like Amazon.
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I just recently gave someone an Amazon gift card. I knew heβd like it because I know he gets stuff from there all the time. So in a way in was a thoughtful gift. π